Navigating the rich landscape of love, intimacy, and sexuality is a fundamental human experience. However, for people with disabilities, finding resonant resources and stories can be a challenge. This carefully curated reading list highlights essential conversations about sex and connection in the disability experience. These discussions are often overlooked. It moves beyond mere theory. It features practical guides and powerful memoirs. The list includes groundbreaking critiques. Together, they affirm a profound truth: everyone deserves a rich story of love and belonging.
Whether you’re a person with a disability seeking advice and community, these books offer essential insights. If you’re a partner in an interabled relationship, you will find valuable perspectives. A student, clinician, or an ally seeking deeper understanding will also gain insights. Discover how to communicate needs, dismantle harmful myths, explore pleasure, and celebrate the beautiful intersections of queerness, disability, and community. As an Amazon associate I earn from qualifying purchases. Thank you for your support.
The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability: For All of Us Who Live with Disabilities, Chronic Pain & Illness
Cory Silverberg | 2007 | 320 pages.
Comprehensive guide covering sexuality for disabled people, addressing communication, myths, and practical intimacy strategies.
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Love, Sex, and Disability: The Pleasures of Care
Various | 2011 | 248 pages
Exploration of the intersections of care, pleasure, and disability in intimate relationships.
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If at Birth You Don’t Succeed: My Adventures with Disaster and Destiny
Zach Anner | 2016 | 288 pages.
Humorous memoir by a comedian with cerebral palsy about embracing life’s unexpected turns and relationships.
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Loneliness and Its Opposite: Sex, Disability, and the Ethics of Engagement
Various | 2015 | 328 pages
Examination of the ethics of sexual engagement for disabled people in institutional settings.
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In Sickness and in Health: Love, Disability, and a Quest to Understand the Perils and Pleasures of Interabled Romance
Ben Mattlin | 2020 | 272 pages
Personal exploration of interabled relationships and the complexities of love and disability.
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Fading Scars: My Queer Disability History
Various | 2015 | 208 pages
Personal history of queer disability activism and community building.
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A Quick & Easy Guide to Sex & Disability
A. Andrews | 2021 | 96 pages
Illustrated guide covering basics, myths, and communication tips for disability sexuality.
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Already Doing It: Intellectual Disability and Sexual Agency
Michael Gill | 2020 | 264 pages
Challenge to assumptions about intellectual disability and sexual expression, advocating for agency.
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Disability Intimacy: Essays on Love, Care, and Desire
Alice Wong | 2024 | 384 pages
What is intimacy? More than sex or romantic love, the pieces in this stunning and illuminating new anthology offer broader definitions. They provide more inclusive meanings of what it can mean to be intimate with another person.
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Exile and Pride: Disability, Queerness, and Liberation
Eli Clare | 2015 | 224 pages.
Classic linking of disability, queerness, class, and environmental justice through personal narrative and political analysis.
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Feminist, Queer, Crip
Alison Kafer | 2013 | 272 pages.
Theoretical framework arguing for a future where disability is valued and integrated into feminist and queer politics.
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Crip Theory: Cultural Signs of Queerness and Disability
Robert McRuer | 2006 | 296 pages.
Academic study examining the intersections of queerness and disability in culture, literature, and politics.
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Leg: The Story of a Limb and the Boy Who Grew from It
Greg Marshall | 2023 | 336 pages.
Memoir of growing up with cerebral palsy and embracing disabled and queer identities.
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